by Ralph White
With the proliferation of the Internet into our lives, there is an explosion of
people wanting to find out about the BDSM lifestyle and culture. They turn to
the net because they can do so without their wife, husband, boss, neighbor, etc.
finding out about their kinky interests. To be sure, there is a wealth of
information on the internet, and some of it is actually correct too!
The key problem with using the Internet as a source for information
is that what you are reading is often incomplete or not balanced. The author of
the information is providing what he/she believes to be correct, but does not
make an effort to say: "There are other opinions." The Internet has created a
whole sub-culture inside of the BDSM lifestyle. There are just some things that
you can't do on-line that you can do in real life. For example, in real life a
slave might avoid eye contact to show deference and respect. You can't do that
on-line, or you can't read the screen. So, in the on-line world, we use
conventions like capitalizing dominant's names and not capitalizing submissive's
names. If a person's only experience is on-line, they assume that this is a
"rule" that everyone knows and follows. … It isn't! There are as many
combinations of "rules" as there are people to make them, and not one is
universal. In this volume, Ralph White strives to present not only his
point-of-view, but other views to which he doesn't necessarily subscribe. The
overriding principle in his book is: "If it works for you, it is okay for you."